Do you want to feel more comfortable in your power, more confident being in charge, and better able to adapt your state to what's unfolding in front of you?
POWER & PRESENCE is an embodiment-focused training course for people interested in exploring Ethical Dominance.
Some people are drawn to this training because they want to engage in power play in safe(r) ways. Others come to build a healthier relationship with power in their lives more broadly.
I see kink is a tool through which we can delve into our relationship with power. When we do this kind of self-exploration it has the potential to impact many different aspects of our lives, sometimes in ways we don't expect!
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The Course
This is a live, online course delivered via Zoom, with optional in-person gatherings.
If we want to explore power play ethically, then we must first take the time to do the "inner work". That includes, amongst other things, looking at where you have blocks, shame, resistance, unmet desires, and the strategies you use to get what you want.
This course is the outcome of two decades on my own journey around this, from people pleaser to Professional Dominant, AND from working with hundreds of people as they consciously explore kink.
I share openly about my own personal (good, bad, and ugly) experiences with power, how my non-kinky parts of life have influenced me greatly, and the challenges of this work that nobody told me about.
The focus of my teaching is on creating a space for us to experiment and have embodied experiences of power.
Learning happens through a combination of theory, embodied enquiries, core skills practice, demonstrations, and group sharing.
The structure is designed to provide ongoing support as you learn to embrace and integrate the different parts of yourself that might be called upon to empower you.
My work is influenced by the Wheel of Consent, the Right Use of Power, conscious kink, Jungian psychology, some aspects of Sexological Bodywork, the DeVinery Method, and many skills that I've been taught and have gone on to develop such as verbal domination.
At the heart of this course is the COMMUNITY - it's about learning and practicing together, and sharing our own experiences so that we can see we are not alone in the challenges we might have around power. It really is a powerful space to be in and can't wait to explore with you on this next journey💜
Module 1
Empowering Kink
I believe that everyone can and should feel empowered in kink, regardless of the roles they are stepping into. In this module, we will explore the POWER part of power play.
Some of the topics covered include:
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POWER - what it is, where it comes from, why it is important, and how our experiences of it to date have shaped us
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Embodiment and the role this plays in ethical power play
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The purpose and benefits of a power differential
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The myths of dominance and why these are dangerous
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Empowered Submissiveness
This module consists of three, 2-hour sessions.
Module 2
Ethical Dominance
I believe we ALL have the capability to step into Dominance in a way that is authentic. If you don't feel that you fit into the box of a stereotypical Dom or Dominatrix, don't let that hold you back (I don't fit into that box either!) The world needs more people who can wield power responsibly in their own unique way.
My style of Dominance draws upon what’s already within me - you might like to think of these as traits, archetypes, or parts.
The aim is to support you in becoming a whole, integrated human rather than simply teaching the “technical skills” of kink. It's less about the activities we do and more about having the ability to change our own state and invite others to do the same through our presence, embodiment, and language.
Some of the topics covered include:
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The role, responsibilities, and fundamental skills of Dominance
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How to think like a Dominant
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Verbal domination
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Psychological domination and connecting to their psyche
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Ethical sadism and shadow play
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The building blocks of a great scene
This module consists of seven, two-hour sessions.
What's included
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NINE ONLINE GROUP SESSIONS via Zoom. These are 2 hours long and each focuses on a different topic, with space to ask questions and share experiences.
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A GROUP AFTERCARE and INTEGRATION SESSION online as we bring the course to a close
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Weekly home practices - you will receive weekly prompts for research, self-reflection, or practical exercises, which will deeply enrich your learning.
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Our POWER & PRESENCE Community - you will have the option to join a private group chat with other participants on Telegram where you can share the outcomes of your weekly home practice, receive input from me and your other peers, build connections with others, and find people to practice with!
There will also be an option to add on extra 1-to-1 sessions with me online or in-person at a discounted rate while the course is running, as past participants have found these helpful.
The Schedule
Our online classes will take place 7 - 9 pm (UK time) on the following dates:
Module 1: Empowering Kink
Thursday 12th September
Thursday 19th September
Thursday 26th September
Module 2: Ethical Dominance
Thursday 10th October
Thursday 17th October
Thursday 24th October
(integration week)
Thursday 7th November
Thursday 14th November
Thursday 21st November
Thursday 28th November (group aftercare, Q&A, and integration)
We will meet via Zoom. The link to join and other details will be sent out to course participants in a welcome email before the first session. Sessions will be recorded and made available to view for 2 weeks after the class date, should you have to miss any of the live classes.
Optional In-Person Gatherings
In this edition of the course, there will be optional in-person gatherings to attend on the following dates:
Sunday 29th September
Saturday 23rd November
Sunday 24th November
These days will offer extra opportunities to practice, to connect with your peers, and to play. There will be demonstrations from the team - as well as a chance for each of you to step into the spotlight - so that we can all be inspired and reflect on what elements make a scene powerful.
The in-person gatherings will all take place in Salford, Greater Manchester.
The extra fee for these three days is £175. If you'd like to attend these, be sure to select the right option at checkout.
Participant Feedback
Prerequisites
I love that people are drawn to this training from all different kinds of backgrounds - from kink newbies to Pro Dommes with decades of experience.
This particular course is designed for those who already have some basic knowledge about kink and are curious about exploring power play ethically.
To ensure that everyone shares the same foundational knowledge as we dive deep into our relationship with and expressions of power, I am only accepting participants onto this course if they have already completed the Getting into (Ethical) Kink course OR equivalent training e.g. some courses from The Kinky Classroom, Wheel of Consent, workshops on communication and negotiation skills, and understanding of implicit power dynamics.
If you haven't completed the intro course or worked with me directly, please contact me for an intro call and we can figure out if this is suitable.
Join us!
Applications are now open for the next edition of the course and you can sign up via the event links above. If you would like to join the whole programme - Getting into Ethical Kink and Ethical Dominance - you will have the option to purchase a package ticket on the event listing linked below.
You can also contact me directly if you'd like to chat about the course in more detail.